Ember Society
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Ember Society

San Diego, United States

Woman owned queer-led nonprofit educational studio in San Diego. Providing accessible, consent-forward education in Shibari, kink, safety, and well-being.

Queer-ownedWoman-ownedAnatomy & SafetyBDSMBeginner-friendlyCommunicationSuspensionNon-profitDisability-owned
  • Workshops
  • Private lessons
  • Jams
  • Intensives
  • Performances
  • Live drawing

More about Ember Society

Our Philosophy

We believe in opening doors for everyone, regardless of where they are on their personal journey. Our goal is to provide a sanctuary where community members can show up as their most authentic selves while forging new paths through informed, intentional living. Here, we don't just teach skills; we foster a shared space for collective growth and deeper connection. As a 501(c)(3) nonprofit, our priority is the community we serve. We provide elevated education in Shibari, Embodiment, and BDSM culture through classes, workshops, and events designed for all experience levels. We are dedicated to keeping our programming as affordable as possible, ensuring that high-quality kink education remains an accessible resource for everyone.

The team

  • Mayor

    (she/her)

    Director | Studio Manager

    A longtime community organizer with a passion for creating spaces where people can explore kink and personal growth. As a person with chronic pain and disability her work is rooted in service, care, accessibility, and the belief that everyone deserves a place to learn, grow, and feel seen within community.

  • Bella

    (she/her)

    Instructor | Board Treasurer

    Bella is a top-leaning rope switch who loves connecting with people by tying them into silly, sensual or sadistic shapes. She first started learning rope at Anatomie studios in London before moving to San Diego in 2019. Her rope style focus less on patterns and more on building empathy, connection and feeling through rope.

  • Veronica

    (she/her)

    Instructor | Vice president

    Veronica Bights was introduced to rope in 2022. As a rope switch who she enjoys all sides of rope and loves self-tying, topping and bottoming. Veronica is drawn to the aesthetic and artistry of rope, as well as the feeling and connection that comes from it. She began teaching in 2024 and is passionate about sharing her love of shibari, especially to those who have just discovered it. She enjoys teaching decorative rope, self-tie classes, and making rope accessible for everyone.

  • Dreadheart

    (he/him)

    Lead instructor | Director of Education

    Dreadheart has been active in the San Diego kink community for over 10 years and has spent the past 8 years teaching rope and kink education with a focus on consent, connection, and curiosity. As a rope instructor and passionate educator, Dreadheart is committed to creating accessible, inclusive spaces for learning and growth. He walks a leather path grounded in authenticity and service, and values community building through shared experience and open dialogue.

Accessibility

We are always open to work with everyone where they are at if interested in attending.

Physical space

  • Accessible parking nearby
  • Lowered suspension points
  • Seating with backrests
  • Step-free entrance

Sensory experience

  • Breaks encouraged
  • Clear reporting or support pathways shared
  • Low-scent environment
  • Neurodiversity-affirming
  • Trauma-informed
  • Quiet or low-stimulus area available

Financial accessibility

  • Sliding scale or reduced-cost options
  • Loaner ropes available
  • Work trade or volunteer discounts

Community safety

We take community safety seriously. While studios operate independently, we uphold clear expectations around consent, accountability, and care.

If something feels off, you can use our reporting system. All concerns are reviewed thoughtfully.

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