Butterfly & Agura, a little meditation session.
Getting to Know You: Top, Bottom, Switch or Self-Tie? How do you identify in rope, are you predominantly a top, a bottom or do you happily switch. Or are you one of those amazingly talent people who does all at once by self tying?
Community Agreements:1. Celebrate and embrace the diversity of thought, practice, and opinion. There are many ways to do and practice rope. The Community Discord is a way for us all to engage and interact across differences. While rope connects us all, we are still unique individually.2. Navigate disagreement through discourse. Treat others with respect, even if you disagree. Discord is primarily a text interaction platform, please be mindful that miscommunications can happen.3. Respect each community members’ identities and honor their boundaries/requests about how they wish to be treated. Treat others how they wish to be treated - this includes using their correct pronouns, name, and any other identifying factors that feel important to them. If you make a mistake, take accountability for your actions and try to repair any harm caused. 4. Help create safer spaces for learning and growth through mutual accountability and co-created community accountability. Accountability is mutually co-created. This space is meant to build community and hold each other in that process - sometimes that means making mistakes. Our commitment to accountability begins with a willingness to own and accept that we are all capable of causing harm. Let’s intentionally build a space where making mistakes and making things right is a part of how we operate.5. Bring a growth mindset and be mindful of your learning zones. Check-in with yourself and where your learning zones are. Be mindful when you are in the panic zone and ask for help if you need it. 6. Actively receive in conversation before responding. Receive information down to the last word before taking the time to communicate your thoughts. 7. Make space, take space. Reflect on when you’re able to take up more space in the discord/threads/conversations and reflect on if you need to be creating more space for others. Reflect on if you aren’t participating as much or taking up space, why that might be. Try to find the courage to share your thoughts and take up space, you belong here! 8. Be mindful of the impact of your actions, not just the intentions behind them. Just because we didn’t intend to hurt or harm someone doesn’t change that they are hurt/harmed. 9. NSFW Content. We unfortunately cannot have explicit NSFW content on the community at this time. As an education platform in Shibari we do recognise some content is concerning the practice of shibari but we cannot host explicit material. We do not want to moderate heavily in this space so please be mindful when sharing photographs. 10. This is all challenge by choice. It’s a choice of action to be here and to be participating in this space. Please participate at whatever capacity feels accessible and most authentic for you
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December 29
Maternity photoshoot for our first daughter, 2023
M: Douce and Aspero
P: Undisclosed
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December 25
Merry Christmas self care - quiet morning before everyone got up. Calming the brain by focusing on learning the Bones and Ropes’ Leg Tie.
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December 24
Hey y'all I'm new here started this for my beautiful wife and I to explore this new Kink to add to our sex life bring out lil More freak in us both we've been together for 18 years total married for 12 years now I was 19 she 25 when we met now I'm 37 n well she's older by 6 years which I absolutely love because of her confidence n sure what she wants she's been open minded to a lot of new kinks we've tried and continue I was definitely the more pushy one on tryna risky kinks with her n she has grown so much with me n for me n I try to keep her happy as well she's solid as fugg n to her surprise she enjoys the kink we've been building on for years she finally opened up to it and she enjoys it and it's a good lil switch up when we like I don't ever want either of us to get like so many bored unhappy couples n have even suggested to get open n get nasty freaky n the bedroom explore most people who do love the new fire in the pleasure they share by doing so I've always been into kinks and not the typical boring proper missionary sex life so many are taught n think is it so glad me and my beautiful wife are freaks not squares Im open to suggestions or advice resources links education for any furthering of our learning in this newly explored area we are dipping into now also interested in BDSM never thought I'd be but yeah definitely looks like something I want to practice also with her
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December 21
Hi Everyone, I'm new here. I know there was a Discord channel or is there no more discord and just this?
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December 19
• Edited (Dec 19, 2025)
My first suspension!
Based on the Kinoko Maete harness
- Comfort for spidermonkey was 7/10
- she suggested the leg bind to the main line
Notes:
- I notice her hands are quite low, so would change that in future.
- I would make the first shoulder wrap 2 clicks tighter.
Would love to hear something I cannot see in this.
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December 18
• Edited (Dec 19, 2025)
Helluw everyone!
I realized I haven’t introduced myself yet! My name, Anthoni (25, he/him), and I am a gay rope cub/boy from the Netherlands 🇳🇱 ! I discovered shibari about 2,5 years ago during Darklands, where I got tied up for the first time and realized it “clicked” for me.
However, after I came back to the Netherlands, I realized sadly that when it came to tying at events/ kink socials/ rope in general, finding a gay rigger who was into / open to tying plus size/ bigger men was practically untraceable. The body standard was still either thin and aerial ✈️ or looking like you could be model for a fetish shoot.
I was so tired of standing on the side and getting rejected, I said “if I can’t rely on men I’ll do it myself 💅🏼” I decided to learn how to tie under Hua Hua ( who lived in Amsterdam at the time), so I could eventually teach more people that tying inclusive is not rocket science, and can mean a lot to people even if it’s not the most beautiful TK you’ve ever TK’d. eventually, I switched to Shibari study due to its availability of content of all levels and skills and its understanding community without having a partner. Been tying ever since and slowly started doing suspensions over th last year. I’ve also done some deeper studying by working with Gorgone, who could give in depth feedback. The amount of hours invested does not equal the amount of years of experience 😅😅
I occasionally get to bottom but for now I’m walking the path of the bearcub rigger in training , and it suits me well, tying with an open mind and learning new tricks everyday in my local studio, Salon expose Amsterdam. Nice to meet yall, and looking forward to all the new experiences I still get to explore!
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December 17
Does anyone knows the name of this rigger? I found some videos of his performances online and would like to know who he is.