Was wondering:
Does anyone else self-tie
when feeling angry
(with themselves)?
I found myself kneeling down on a pile of ropes, putting on a blindfold, placing a self-made gag (made of a mesh scarf holding old rope ends in the center), and squeezing the anger out.
Getting to Know You: Top, Bottom, Switch or Self-Tie? How do you identify in rope, are you predominantly a top, a bottom or do you happily switch. Or are you one of those amazingly talent people who does all at once by self tying?
Community Agreements:1. Celebrate and embrace the diversity of thought, practice, and opinion. There are many ways to do and practice rope. The Community Discord is a way for us all to engage and interact across differences. While rope connects us all, we are still unique individually.2. Navigate disagreement through discourse. Treat others with respect, even if you disagree. Discord is primarily a text interaction platform, please be mindful that miscommunications can happen.3. Respect each community members’ identities and honor their boundaries/requests about how they wish to be treated. Treat others how they wish to be treated - this includes using their correct pronouns, name, and any other identifying factors that feel important to them. If you make a mistake, take accountability for your actions and try to repair any harm caused. 4. Help create safer spaces for learning and growth through mutual accountability and co-created community accountability. Accountability is mutually co-created. This space is meant to build community and hold each other in that process - sometimes that means making mistakes. Our commitment to accountability begins with a willingness to own and accept that we are all capable of causing harm. Let’s intentionally build a space where making mistakes and making things right is a part of how we operate.5. Bring a growth mindset and be mindful of your learning zones. Check-in with yourself and where your learning zones are. Be mindful when you are in the panic zone and ask for help if you need it. 6. Actively receive in conversation before responding. Receive information down to the last word before taking the time to communicate your thoughts. 7. Make space, take space. Reflect on when you’re able to take up more space in the discord/threads/conversations and reflect on if you need to be creating more space for others. Reflect on if you aren’t participating as much or taking up space, why that might be. Try to find the courage to share your thoughts and take up space, you belong here! 8. Be mindful of the impact of your actions, not just the intentions behind them. Just because we didn’t intend to hurt or harm someone doesn’t change that they are hurt/harmed. 9. NSFW Content. We unfortunately cannot have explicit NSFW content on the community at this time. As an education platform in Shibari we do recognise some content is concerning the practice of shibari but we cannot host explicit material. We do not want to moderate heavily in this space so please be mindful when sharing photographs. 10. This is all challenge by choice. It’s a choice of action to be here and to be participating in this space. Please participate at whatever capacity feels accessible and most authentic for you
in 🧶 self-tying
January 18
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January 18
Rope Journal - Week 3
Januarys theme - Reflection & Intention
How do you like to prepare a space for rope (music, lighting, mindset)?
I really loved this prompt as music features so heavily in my planning of rope scenes, but having watched some really powerful scenes conducted in complete silence, just the creak of rope, the sound of breath and gentle (and sometimes not to gentle) whimpers and moans from a bottom.Â
Ill be adding my full response to this in a comment, and as always I look forward to hearing your guys thoughts and opinions on this one too.Â
in 🧶 self-tying
January 18
• Edited (Jan 18, 2026)
Self tie Sunday. Did i already mention that i love strappado 😊
in 🧶 self-tying
January 18
• Edited (Jan 18, 2026)
Self tie Saturday - Floor play with bamboos
in 💬 general-chat
January 18
More learning and drawing/diagramming of the front facing harness
January 15
Join Switchmeister and Lil at 1pm Eastern (18:00 UTC) for a demo and discussion exploring how pace, distance, and timing can transform your rope scenes.
Watch here: https://shibaristudy.com/programs/pace-distance-timing-stream
See you soon!
January 14
Yes I got mine
27 %
Not quite there yet
73 %
44 votes
in 🪢 bottoming
January 14
