Self-tying folks, don’t miss our next live stream with Burgundy Rose: Dancing with Uplines on Thursday, November 13th. Register here!
Getting to Know You: Top, Bottom, Switch or Self-Tie? How do you identify in rope, are you predominantly a top, a bottom or do you happily switch. Or are you one of those amazingly talent people who does all at once by self tying?
Community Agreements:1. Celebrate and embrace the diversity of thought, practice, and opinion. There are many ways to do and practice rope. The Community Discord is a way for us all to engage and interact across differences. While rope connects us all, we are still unique individually.2. Navigate disagreement through discourse. Treat others with respect, even if you disagree. Discord is primarily a text interaction platform, please be mindful that miscommunications can happen.3. Respect each community members’ identities and honor their boundaries/requests about how they wish to be treated. Treat others how they wish to be treated - this includes using their correct pronouns, name, and any other identifying factors that feel important to them. If you make a mistake, take accountability for your actions and try to repair any harm caused. 4. Help create safer spaces for learning and growth through mutual accountability and co-created community accountability. Accountability is mutually co-created. This space is meant to build community and hold each other in that process - sometimes that means making mistakes. Our commitment to accountability begins with a willingness to own and accept that we are all capable of causing harm. Let’s intentionally build a space where making mistakes and making things right is a part of how we operate.5. Bring a growth mindset and be mindful of your learning zones. Check-in with yourself and where your learning zones are. Be mindful when you are in the panic zone and ask for help if you need it. 6. Actively receive in conversation before responding. Receive information down to the last word before taking the time to communicate your thoughts. 7. Make space, take space. Reflect on when you’re able to take up more space in the discord/threads/conversations and reflect on if you need to be creating more space for others. Reflect on if you aren’t participating as much or taking up space, why that might be. Try to find the courage to share your thoughts and take up space, you belong here! 8. Be mindful of the impact of your actions, not just the intentions behind them. Just because we didn’t intend to hurt or harm someone doesn’t change that they are hurt/harmed. 9. NSFW Content. We unfortunately cannot have explicit NSFW content on the community at this time. As an education platform in Shibari we do recognise some content is concerning the practice of shibari but we cannot host explicit material. We do not want to moderate heavily in this space so please be mindful when sharing photographs. 10. This is all challenge by choice. It’s a choice of action to be here and to be participating in this space. Please participate at whatever capacity feels accessible and most authentic for you
in 🧶 self-tying
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November 02
00:47
Coming up next, a real slow burn from hua hua and Dantianshi. Catch Dense Rope when it comes out on Wednesday!
in 💬 general-chat
November 02
Hi everyone,
I’m Zero.
I have been doing rope play for a week. Attending my first class tonight, but once a week is not enough for a real foundational base; or a deep rope special interest (I just really like ropes generally).
Right now, I’m still finding aesthetic finishing tricky - as you can see in the picture, I got to the end of this tie and went 🤷🏻 and just bound the feet.
This was my first tie 🎀 yesterday.
From my perspective, it the communication that is the first thing to work on with partner work.
Being able to communicate through “does the tension feel symmetrical?”, “is there anything that is taking you out of the experience?” *lifts up to mock suspension* “ If we were suspending, where would most of the load be put and would this be too uncomfortable for you?”
Even though this was a platonic lab session, the agency for them to express ‘tighter’, I could see was doing something for them.
So, thanks for starting this community.
Hope to share more as it comes.
October 31
Helloo - I’m Michelle and I’ve been part of the Shibari Study team since January (so almost a year now!). I’m the one thinking about how to get the wider world (especially folks who don’t yet know what shibari is) curious about this practice.
When I started at the beginning of the year, I was new to shibari, though not exactly new to niche, sexy, kinky audiences (I used to work for Erika Lust in the past). Since then a lot’s happened: I’ve been tied a few times, went to EURIX this summer and recently started exploring self-tying with our beginner videos.
So... a new shibari enthusiast and enthusiastic lurker in the corner of community. 🦕
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peep @myroperope and her little ducklings having fun with some self-tying games. Kahrin and I usually work behind the scenes at Shibari Study but when needed, we're also in front of the camera :')
October 31
For all those among us who don't require a partner to experience rope, that embody the top and bottom all at the same time. The self tying channel is here to discuss the unique experience that happens in the intersection of both tying and being tied at the same time. Not all rope is suitable to be self tied, but time and time again we see amazing rope artists adapting ties and making it possible to tie them alone. The Self Tying channel is here to give you a space to discuss the nuances of tying yourself.
This channel is visible publicly, however only subscribers can post and comment. We feel it is important to have this channel public to more widely share the knowledge and resources discussed on this important topic.
in 💬 general-chat
October 31
Howdy, I’m Mills! I’m a bisexual top/dom, and I’ve been deep in BDSM and kink since 2021.
I was a novice Shibari Study member when I applied for the Live Host position, and I’m still a novice now (though I did tie a harness for a birthday party piñata last week).
When I was a kid, I had access to a steady stream of ancient, broken surplus computers, and my favorite game was to make them work again. These days, I’m putting those same technical instincts to use by running all aspects of the Shibari Study live streams. I love connecting our community by bringing rope education from instructors’ living rooms to wherever you watch.
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Here’s a little BTS shot from our most recent production. You’ll get to see this trio tie together in just a few weeks ;)
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I feel like the theme of "things I wish I'd known when I started rope" comes up again and again when chatting to other rope bottoms. This article really resonated for me, especially making the mistake of thinking "rigger knows best" when I was too much of a beginner myself to recognise risky tying practices.
I'd love to know what else folks in this channel think new bottoms should know?
October 31
“I only bottom and wouldn’t have it any other way”
13 %
“I only/mostly bottom but want to tie more”
33 %
“I switch pretty evenly”
20 %
“I only bottom on occasion and that’s how I like it”
13 %
“I fell victim to the bottom to switch pipeline and now I really only tie even though I miss bottoming so much”
20 %
15 votes