MoBights (Community Manager)

Manchester, United Kingdom

Shibari Study Community Manager and general rope nerd, food enthusiast and appreciator of art, movies and martial arts

ø Zero ø this kind of tie is definitely in my wheelhouse 😄

Hey zero, what a lovely introduction and welcome to the community.i definitely reflect annies comment, the communication can often be more inprtant to a good rope scene than the technicality. As for aesthetics, in my experience this is something that definitely comes woth time, practice and the subsequent intuition. As someone whos a huge fan to tight foot binding, i think you did a great job. If you tie this pattern again, omw thing you couod try is starting at the ankles and working up. The waist is a much wider cplumn to burn rope around. Or alternatively secure it off at the ankles, then reinforce the central stem with some wraps. Theres lots of fun ways to play around with that type of pattern for "aesthetic" finishes

Hi Brian moore and welcome. Self tying futomomo can be challenging with limited flexibility, my old man knees can relate to this. Usually if its shifting under load this would indicate a tension issue. The bottom half of my teaching due often reminds me, theres no lungs in your legs, so you can tie a lot tighter than you expect. Especially in a bent knee position where most pf the nerves are safely tucked behind your knee. If you share a photo of your futomomo id be happy to give some advice.

Other options would be to look at the upline placement, or to add cinches to help keep the tension

31 Oct 23:58

Hey JoyfukSparks and welcome to the community.

I remember well being intimidated by the wealth of things to learn about rope..now i take some comfort in knowing i will never know everything, and neither will anyone else. So theres always something to learn from each other

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Cody Van Houten its ok, we quiclkly pivotted the advice on the SOTM.

Fuocos book js great though, it helps to buold a good underatsndi g of types of bodies and types of TKs and ways you can idenrify them. A must read for bith tops and bottoms

@Kahrin

you always have amazing music recommendations, our team spotify playlist is on regular cycle for my commute 

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That being said I do believe the for some people a TK just isnt suitable but often times they aren't taught with the anatomy in mind and focus more on the pattern of the rope not the body of the person being tied. Positions need to be sustainable without the rope, its job in a TK is to hold the body in place not force the position. I'm also going to take the opportunity to plug Fuoco book Put Me In a Box. Its possibly one of the most comprehensive guides on body positioning as is pertains to TK's so definitely worth checking outPhysical: https://www.cuttheleash.com/shop/p/put-me-in-a-box-a-bottom-centric-guide-to-box-ties-in-the-style-of-choose-your-own-adventure Digital: https://www.cuttheleash.com/shop/p/put-me-in-a-box-digital

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31 Oct 18:25

I can totally relate to challenges with TK's. For the first few years of tying my partner and I avoided them at all costs, partly due to being a bit afraid of them, partly because my partner is self employed and needs her hands to work (she actually has them insured for a pretty sizable amount against any injuries).What finally turned the corner for us was to get some private tuition and focus solely on working out whether TK's were just something we couldnt do or whether there was an opportunity to tie them better and more sustainable for my partner. Needless to say 3 years later we predominately tie TK's now and it was very much something we were able to conquer. In our case a lot of the learning was actually in the body mechanics, it was very much about the initial placement of the arms, how we got into position and what position worked for my partner.

31 Oct 18:07

i always love seeing when you guys pop up in videos or photos on the site... im always like...

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Mills gotta make sure your piñata is secure before you hit it. Whether candy filled or human... safety first

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