MoBights (Community Manager)

Manchester, United Kingdom

Shibari Study Community Manager and general rope nerd, food enthusiast and appreciator of art, movies and martial arts
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12 Jan 00:25

glow party.. you might need to explain this idea for me as I dont know we have that in the UK. Is it like a UV party?

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11 Jan 20:00

Rope Journal - Week 2
January's Theme - Reflection & Intention

"What was your first impression of rope bondage before you tried or learned about it?"

This is always such an interesting question, it opens up the variety of ways in which we discover rope, how we are initially exposed to it and what sparked the intrigue that got us onto this journey.

As always love to hear your thoughts and opinions in the comments. If you are handwriting your journals in a book, feel free to just drop a photo of your response this week 🙂



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Intrigued, concerned, disgusted, aroused and all manner of other emotions while watching others do rope, but in all senses I felt a sense of connection, either with the riggers focus and attention, or to the sound of jute creaking on bamboo, or through empathy with the experience of the bottom in rope. Connection is such a small way to express something so diverse there are almost not enough words, but it is really woven into the fabric of rope bondage that its impact is inescapable, maybe more so than any knot or wrap we have ever tied. 3/3

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from the pace at which I tie connecting to the pulsing tempo of music, or the play of light and shadow that reminds me of a blurry photograph scattered on a coffee table, my rope is also a connection to self and an amalgamation of all the things I have experienced to that moment, and the shift that this experience will have on my future. This weekend we were fortunate to attend a Kinbaku Salon, a first for the UK scene as a dedicated event. During the discussion a member of the audience made a comment that really stuck with me. He expressed that while watching the couple tie the rest of the room melted away, almost as if it were just him silently watching them and I realised I often feel the same when watching rope. There's an intimate connection between the observer and the observed, an epoch in time that forever changes us and that connection is something I hear very little about, but it has shaped how Ive approached rope for over 10 years, I've felt inspired, amused 2/3

11 Jan 14:33

Connection often feels to me as something ethereal, it evokes an idea of some intangible concept that is talked about in hushed tones in darkened rooms. In reflecting over this week I have considered a number of angles of what connection means to me in rope. Initially my connection is an emotional one, I find myself unequivocally draw into focussing on the minutia of my partner while she is in rope, I connect to the sound of her breath, the twitch of a toe, her hands clasping and checking her sensory inputs. I'm connected with her almost inaudible gasps and whimpers as each rope is place or removed, the subtle shifts of weight in a suspension or the gentle way her hair falls during a transition. But I also connect with myself. As a top rope is a creative outlet for me, I find inspiration from various arts, music, dance, paintings, photography and the ones that invoke an emotional response connect with me and resonate on a deeper level. These inspirations come out in my rope .1/3

08 Jan 17:48

Im always in awe if how you self tie someone these things, amazing first rope of the year though

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Definitely important that you enjoy it too, i always think that teaching really should come from a place of passion and fulfilment so if your enjoying it you will teach much better.

I have a similar mat to this, it's the same material as the outer of a tatami mat and very portable so easy to take to workshops. Any igusa mat or rug is perfect.

Or if you have the space to store them 2 full size tatami mats are perfect. Our rope room has 4 tatami for the floor and we have the portable mat for workshops

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Thanks for sharing that insight TangledNTwisted its interesting how you can have different sense of connection with yourself, from the mediative side to the more intense and focussed. That's definitely something that as a top I also find in rope, I can vary between very meditative flow states, to really hyper focussed states even within the same session. As for overintellectualizing, I think that shows up for many people as they develop within rope, often when we are in a growth phase technically and then as we settle that side of our brain we become more feeling, both sensation and emotional, driven

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06 Jan 18:21

For a moment I totally thought this was a cool arty photograph of a reflection in the laptop, the realise which video it was haha.

Always good to revist basics though, and teaching can be a great way to solidy that knowledge, especially when people ask "why" type questions